This is the learning experience prototype in version 1.0.0-alpha.3 of a project codenamed Pansystellar. Everything here is in first-person, with the perspective being that of the reader. I'm the person reading this right now. I'm being told what to think. It's almost like I'm reading my thoughts when I have them. Instead of me mentally replacing "you" with "I", this text already says "I". Instead of the text being a window through which I see other people's wishes of what personal transformation I should experience, the device I'm using is a window though which other people hand me a personal transformation. I may still be skeptical of what I read. For deeper psychological suggestion, I will imagine that I'm looking at an interface that's rendered by my brain.
The identity of Pansystellar evolves a lot. Currently, it's an attempt to make a system in which the end product is a learning experience that strongly advances my understanding of things despite being confined to a web app. It aspires to describe mental models with full precision. Its structure will be a hybrid between a cohesive book and a big catalog of courses. For historical reasons, the content is temporarily focused mostly on connecting with people, acting on a desire for a romantic relationship, understanding my mind, and/or becoming mentally tough.
Pansystellar is a strong attempt to innovate, which involves high risk and high reward for the quality of ideas, i.e. gambling on quality. It's in an extremely early stage of development, so there's a high chance of the worst ideas still being present. Accepting what it tells me could have any result. At worst, a statement could be a hypothesis based on one personal experience of someone other than me, and I could be instructed to use a technique that hasn't been tested before.
Codeberg repository: https://codeberg.org/dullbananas/pansystellar
This work by the people listed below is licensed under CC BY 4.0. A copy of this license is available at https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Joseph Silva (https://dullbananas.com)
I will select the true conditions below, then I will correctly respond to those conditions. These checkboxes toggle the visibility of some text.
I might want to be in a romantic relationship.When I "boldly" do something, I will go all in on allowing myself to make a particular choice. Maybe it's counterintuitive or unexpected. So what? Maybe I will lose conformity or comfort, but those losses are not sacrifices, and the lost things are basically nothing. I will be the boss.
Understanding words is not enough. Belief in what I'm about to learn must be fully experienced by all relevant parts of my mind at all relevant times.
A brainwashing factor could be ...
A brainwashing factor could ...
The word "brainwashing" might be too absolute. Until a better phrase is determined, I need to avoid being confused by how extreme it sounds. The possible effects listed above could be tiny or huge. Sometimes it's surprisingly deep brainwashing.
I must ...
I will maintain one or more logs of some personal events/thoughts of various levels of significance. They don't have to be very comprehensive. Daily logging is not needed.
Logs can help me ...
It's useful to include, along with the date of each, ...
An activity is either goal-oriented (done "for" something that could come after and as part of an arbitrarily big plan) or intrinsically motivated (contains or instantly causes the directly desired thing).
An intrinsically motivated activity, in many cases, is similar to grabbing balls out of a bucket, not seeing what I'm grabbing until it's out of the bucket, and not trying to pick only some balls. The results (possibly some causing others) of the activity are represented by the balls.
This classification is not to be confused with ...
My level of advancement correlates with ...
My level of advancement does not correlate with ...
I will expose the fear part of my mind to everything I know about what brings me toward or away from happiness, especially my regrets. This allows isolation, regret, and frustration to be treated the same as any other danger and be the ones that are fled from.
I can make fear interfere less with my freedom by imagining that I'm in a situation in which the thing I want to stop fearing resists oppression I'm facing right now from something that I fear much more. The tendency to have less fear of not doing something if I don't imagine this situation is an irrational thing likely caused by the difficulty of fearing things that seem more abstract or are long-term consequences.
The more feared thing could be ...
I might benefit from acknowledging that I chose the oppressed state when I fail to do the courageous action. For this to be safe, I need to not see my tendency to choose the wrong thing as an immutable trait of me.
It's usually wrong to feel like I'm being more normal (or having the normal perspective of danger and safety) by letting fear restrict me, because the normalcy of an action with some risk being preferred over the lack of that action is demonstrated by how common it is to ...
I will be skeptical of thoughts against doing a brave action that I earlier recognized as being good. It's the voice of an abuser. I will ignore it to be safer. I won't forget at the last minute why I'm ignoring it.
A suspect of such an abuser could be ...
In most cases, instead of giving up, I should patiently cling onto hope, even if it means spending hours getting the courage to do something.
When I feel embarrassed about something I did, I will ...
In this context, a "subject" is a person or thing.
When I should find a subject to select for something to make it good enough, I should maintain a written list of what I might require in the subject or admire in subjects of this type.
I will build such lists with the help of my ...
Sometimes, a separate list for observations or experiences of a specific subject is useful.
This gives me a less foggy perception of subjects. In a search for one, it resists the confirmation bias caused by the appeal of the idea that the search is easy or already finished.
Such lists should not be used as a checklist, and it should keep on evolving. It's just additional input to intuition.
I will not forget that the thing I risk facing or causing in social situations is usually just awkward emotions.
When there's multiple possibilities of people to interact with in the same time frame, it's typically good to allow the choice (whether or not I choose someone) to be affected by ...
It's risky to allow the choice to be affected by information I'm only up to 99% sure about.
Unless I need to rest, I won't reduce my ambition. Instead, I will modify the mental system that my ambition is applied to.
After discovering a severe negative reaction to my behavior, I will ...
For building a group that I will be in, it helps to methodically search for person(s) that will make the group good enough.
My pursuit of connection in the present can lead to a situation that benefits others such as ...
I will find energy from this love before I know who it's for.
My romantic journey is a subset of connecting with people. It is centered around movement away from being single, in other words closer to being married. Sometimes it's movement like when I walk, and sometimes it's movement like when water moves me because I'm too far away from the shore. Haha.
Thinking about someone a lot is sometimes a foundational event in my romantic journey, so it can be worthy of being logged.
A romantic relationship is a subset of groups of people, exists when both people explicitly agree on it, and was not previously a different kind of a group of people. A marriage is a subset of romantic relationships, and hopefully was previously a normal romantic relationship.
A romantic relationship is good to the extent that being with the other person all the time for the rest of my life is good. Low standards are not sacrificial love because incompatibility likely wastes both people's time and makes both people want to leave.
When entering a romantic relationship or marriage is a goal that I know I'm not already moving toward, my response will not be just a highly focused plan, a bunch of goal-oriented actions, and thinking of most intrinsically motivated actions as being separate. The main problem with that is it doesn't leave a lot of room for making my entire self known to other people. Instead, I will treat the lack of movement as the last straw of the way of life that kept me away from the goal and deeply change myself. With the right response, there might be multiple missions, and I could move toward multiple things instead of only the "last straw" goal.
The 4 basic elements of the correct response include ...
Just because I start doing more interpersonal interactions only after starting to find a solution to not moving toward a romantic relationship, doesn't mean that I do the same amount of platonic interactions as before.
If I'm single, I can romantically interact with either one person exclusively or with multiple. If interaction stops with one person for at least 7 days, for any reason, I will not continue exclusivity with that person. Otherwise, I will make the choice that feels easier. For example, I will not fight an urge to harmlessly respond to romantic feelings for people other than the one I have the most logical reasons to pursue or the one I think I'm closest to being in a relationship with (there's lots of potential for illusions there), and I will not cognitively overload myself. I will not expect exclusivity to be mutual when I'm single. I will avoid limbo.
I may try to resist romantic feelings or attachment if ...
In other cases, I won't resist unless I'm sure I need to.
With caution, I may focus on a tiny positive feeling to make it become huge. It might be beneficial if it's to shift focus.
I can try to find patterns in what happens before crush toward someone begins or increases, and know which indicators are associated with very intense crush. I can use this knowledge to instantly predict that I am likely about to start having crush toward someone, which is useful in situations where I'm likely to regret not interacting with the person sooner, which is usually when there's not much time left with them (short camp, near end of high school, etc.).
Crush may be predicted based on many things, such as ...
I can use a crush prediction to have more energy, speed, and/or decisiveness in ...
I can gradually change the intentions of my thoughts and actions by habituating a different way for them to begin. In my romantic journey, I should do this so that my intention is to create a good journey for my future romantic partner toward me. On most days, my intention will never be about my desires. This will include thinking "he/she didn't find me yet" instead of "I didn't find someone yet". When I might interact, I will think of the world as kinda like a stage that the other person is the audience of. Of course, this is without the separation there usually is between an audience and a performance, and instead of exactly putting on a show, I'm possibly letting goodness be visible through me. I will intuitively know whether or not to just be in the background.
In addition to being in others' best interest, this can make me more mentally stable.
Ideally, the effect of ghosting should stay between me and ghoster, not slow down all of my social activity or cause a deadlock. This bad effect is more likely if I do things that stop me from interacting with other people while there's a lack of interaction with the ghoster, such as improperly done exclusivity.
I can proactively avoid issues caused by ghosting or situations that seem like ghosting using an agreement with the other person to not ghost each other and to not blame the other person for not interpreting ghosting in a certain way. This is beneficial if I care a lot about someone. With this agreement, it's ethical to act under the assumption that something that looks like ghosting is actually something else (e.g. a technical issue), and I can resolve such an issue without the cognitive load and fear caused by the possibility that overcoming the issue would be intrusive.
In a confusing interpersonal situation, I will not make unnecessary jokes, because they could make the situation worse. For example, if I see something about the situation differently from what it actually is, I could make a joke about it that's offensive if it's about what the thing actually is instead of what I think it is, and this would offend the other person.
In connection, conditionality and waiting should be minimal. Deciding to be around people in a particular moment should not be fundamentally dependent on predicted benefits. For example, if I have a desire to find a relationship: when I'm in a room, and everyone else in the room is known to not fulfill my absolutely mandatory criteria (correct religion, single, etc.), I should still make the most of the situation, within obvious limits.
I will completely avoid ...
Connection in any situation can be good because ...
External things and my actions don't need to match my feelings toward people. Perfection in my actions is not determined by the accuracy of other people's predictions and imagination. The side effect of other people suspecting a feeling that I have is morally good or neutral, even if those feelings are false or indecisive. Making a sacrifice to prevent that side effect is not always morally good or neutral.
Perfection is different from perfect imitation.
An uncomfortable situation is usually not a forbidden situation.
I will quickly be aware of ...
An example of conversational continuation that I will stay aware of is to ...
I will not prematurely assume that ...
A possible brainwashing factor is the occurence, fear, or perception of ...
People treating publit transit mainly as just the poor people's mode of transit is a brainwashing factor.
Public transit agencies are likely to have a webpage for people new to using a mode of transit or to using that particular public transit. I will look at that, even if it seems like I already know how to use it. Currently, this Pansystellar module is totally not a full beginner guide, because for now it's focused on advice that's not found very easily elsewhere.
I will not underestimate how easy it might be to accidentally wait for a bus or train on the wrong side of the rail or road. If I exit on one side when arriving at a place, I will remember to switch to the other side for leaving the place, if that's the correct side. If a trip is not familiar enough, I will not excessively delay checking my GPS location to verify that I'm going the right way.
Even if it's happened every time so far, I will not expect ...